Below is an excerpt from an article I wrote for The Federalist.
We are living in a secular age. Consider marriage: we’re told that there is no longer room in the public square for an approach to marriage clothed in even the most modest trappings of religion. Marriage is about feelings—not religion, institutions, or any sort of covenant. But there are consequences to our secularization of love.
Consider this Friday article in New York Times entitled, “To stay in love, sign on the dotted line.” The article’s author, Mandy Len Catron, explains her approach to relationships, in which she utilizes a “relationship contract” to organize and maintain her love life.
The piece is both biographical and sympathetic. Catron spent nearly a decade in a difficult and unhealthy relationship. Upon its dissolution, she took stock of her experience and realized that she had yielded too many things in the name of love, most importantly her sense of self. She writes, “It wasn’t until I moved out that I began to see that there hadn’t been room for me in my relationship.”
Read the entire article here.